Self-Deception: A Roadblock To Recovery

In a society that stigmatizes alcohol abuse and addiction, people who struggle with alcoholism may try to hide or cover up their disease to avoid judgment, among other reasons. For many alcoholics, lying is a defense mechanism that maintains the disease of addiction, and ultimately, lying is a roadblock on the path to recovery.

Self-Deception: A Roadblock to Recovery

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People who struggle with alcoholism may lie, but lies should not be a distraction from the problem at hand, the active alcohol addiction. The underlying issues that contribute to their addiction must be revealed and explored. Do not let lies prevent you, or your loved one, from finding treatment solutions and a path toward recovery.

Samuel, expain HOW the unfaithful loves 2 persons at the same time ie steak and chopped liver..? This has been a heated topic during our discovery and recovery. Unfortunately with no clear understanding on the HOW to love 2 persons at the same time. And your Vlog added confusion with starting arguments !! By the way...What is love for the unfaithful...??? Please define/explain.Please do NOT use the concept or idea of compartmentalizing since God did NOT intended man to use this concept (compartmentize) for reasons like infidelity.

When recovering from an affair, you cannot control how your spouse conducts himself or herself; however, you certainly can request total transparency and honesty. You may want to seek permission to have access to his or her call history, email, text messages, and social media accounts. You might also ask to make a plan for handling potential and unexpected contacts from the other person. Seek guidance in ensuring that the initial recovery plan and accountability check-in points for your spouse are healthy for your own recovery and mindset.

Forgiveness will be a process and a journey. It likely will not come quickly or easily. Study what forgiveness is and what it is not. Choosing to extend forgiveness to your spouse does not mean that you will immediately forget the pain and devastation brought on by their unfaithfulness. However, it is more about the state of your own heart. At some point, you will want to communicate your forgiveness to your spouse. This could be done in a variety of ways, such as writing a letter, recording a video, or having a face-to-face conversation. Understand that God calls us to forgive, but also know that forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration are three distinct and long-term processes on the road to recovery from an affair.

Stubbornness stands in the way of our recovery, whether we are recovering from our own addiction or that of someone we love. Whether struggling with alcoholism, addiction, or even codependency, we must learn to let go of our stubborn behavior if we are ever to make a proper attempt at recovery. Below, we will discuss a bit about how stubbornness feeds into addiction from both sides of the coin, as well as the best ways in which to deal with it.

Stubbornness as exhibited by the family of the addict or alcoholic is somewhat more complicated, in the sense that it may be exhibited in a number of ways. Some, however, are far more damaging than others. The first manner in which the family of the addict or alcoholic may display their stubbornness is, believe it or not, by allowing the addict or alcoholic in question to continue along their self-destructive path. The family may use any number of excuses in order to justify this behavior, and they will often stick to these excuses for quite some time after the addict has either begun their path toward recovery or even abandoned the family due to their own stubborn refusal to quit drinking. Clinical psychologist Julie Roe, writing for Charisma Magazine, states:

Humility is at the heart of these pursuits. In order to overcome our stubbornness, we must accept that our view of things is not always fully accurate. We have the right to be wrong from time to time, but we also have a responsibility to admit to ourselves and to others when this has been the case. For many of us, learning the value of humility can be one of the greatest roadblocks to overcoming our stubbornness. But it is vital. Both the addict and the codependent must learn to see their faults if they are ever to truly recover from their emotional and spiritual condition. With enough willingness, we can get there eventually.

I do, of course, mean the Sacrament of Confession, but I also mean confession to the wounded spouse. The wounded spouse has a right to all the information about the affair that he or she wishes to have. The wounded spouse should never be put in the position of pulling information out of the cheater. The offending spouse must willingly offer all the details and information the wounded spouse wishes to hear. While forgiveness is absolutely essential to recovery, the wounded spouse cannot forgive what he or she does not know. Full confession is not only good for the soul, it is essential for reconciliation of the marriage.

Even after the marriage is better than ever and the offending spouse is more open and competent at conflict management and vulnerable than ever, lingering doubts may still remain in the wounded spouse and persistent feelings of unworthiness and guilt may afflict the offending spouse. The couple may need the benefit of cognitive therapy strategies to help them learn how to evaluate and resolve these irrational and undesirable emotional roadblocks to full recovery.

As I mentioned at the outset, making a full recovery from infidelity is certainly possible, but it is never a do-it-yourself project. Infidelity is marital cancer that requires competent, multi-stage, multi-modal treatment by a marriage-friendly therapist. Additionally, organizations such as Retrouvaille can offer peer support as an adjunct (though NEVER a replacement) to competent marital counseling. Regardless of where you turn for help, know that there is healing for your injured heart and troubled marriage. Faithfully work at the recovery tasks in front of you, and trust that the Lord will guide you to the peace and wholeness that is your right to expect from your marriage.

Sarno used support meetings for patients who do not make a prompt recovery. Sarno stated that the support meetings (a) allow the patients to explore emotional issues that may be causing their symptoms and (b) review concepts covered during the earlier education.[8]

There, the close proximity of parachute drops over an area in which helicopters were in use meant there was a risk of unpleasant accidents involving helicopter blades and slowly descending troops. Somewhat thankfully, no one was hurt. A bigger problem was the desire to airdrop in their heavy equipment consisting of the M551 Sheridans and M998 HMMWVs, which went wrong. For a start, these vehicles had to be dropped away from the troops for fear of the obvious consequences of dropping both in the same place. This led to a delay in recovery of the equipment, which was not finished until 0900 hours, with some of it found outside the airport in the long grass. Second was damage from the drop. One M551 was utterly wrecked when it landed far too hard and a second was damaged. Of the M998 HMMWVs dropped, which were to haul light artillery, four of them were damaged in the drop. By 0900 hours, when the equipment had been found and recovered, this force was seriously diminished, with 2 tanks down, 4 HMMWVs damaged, and just two of the M102 howitzers operational. One vehicle was not recovered until 29th December (9 days after the attack), as it had been dropped in a marsh.

The P.D.F. forces defending La Comandancia had already started some preparation in the hours before the invasion, with roadblocks including one to the north, which was made from two dump trucks placed across the road. With H hour pulled forward by 15 minutes, the attack was led by Team Wolf Apache using their AH-64 helicopters. They took out several 2 ton trucks with 30 mm cannon fire and a pair of V-300 armored cars with Hellfire missiles. An AC-130 gunship used its 105 mm gun to aid in the suppression of La Comandancia, along with further helicopter-launched Hellfire missiles.

As the helicopters of Team Wolf Apache attacked La Comandancia, the troops of the 4th Battalion, 6th Infantry set off from their side of the canal zone, less than a mile away. Using the M113 APC, they immediately encountered small roadblocks and small arms fire, although the direction of the fire could often not be established. In such a heavily built-up area and reluctant to randomly fire into civilian buildings, little US return fire was forthcoming. Either way, the small arms fire was of little consequence to the bulletproof M113s and their cargo of soldiers.

Despite the loss of the element of surprise, things did go better than may have been expected. While there was fire from P.D.F. troops, the armor of the M113 prevented any injuries and the roadblock P.D.F. troops had thrown up with cars was simply crushed and driven over. The same was not true to the north, where the M113s, at high speed, turned sharply onto Avenue B to find the dump truck roadblock. Traveling too fast to stop, the lead M113 careened into the side of one truck. The following M113 likewise saw the obstacle too late but it managed to swerve to the side to avoid crashing into the back of vehicle 1. The third vehicle then plowed straight into the back of vehicle 2. The result was a large mess, an even larger roadblock, and one crippled M113 with an injured soldier inside.

The P.D.F. plan was an ambush at this site and their roadblock worked too well. The US soldiers had an abundance of cover they would otherwise not have had approaching the roadblock in a more conventional manner. In the gun battle which followed, the roof gunner on one M113 was hit by P.D.F. forces and killed.

With operations starting before H hour, TFW likewise was in action, sending out its patrol. In a common story for the invasion, opposition gunfire was fierce but ineffective. The roadblocks were all in place within an hour. One US soldier was hit and killed and another two wounded at one of the roadblocks, but overall P.D.F. resistance had crumbled. Where a building was found to have a sniper, it was peppered vigorously with rifle and machine-gun fire from the 0.50 caliber machine guns carried on the M113. The gates of Ancon DENI station were blown apart with 90 mm recoilless rifle fire in a show of force and, by 0445 hours, Ancon DENI station was in US hands. 2ff7e9595c